Bullying UK resources

Bullying UK is a website that has an array of resources for

  • young adults,
  • parents,
  • schools,
  • workplaces and more.
The young adult section looks at
  • cyberbullying
  • general tips
  • outside of school and
  •  tips to combat bullying
  • case studies
  • general parent tips
  • is your child a bully and
  • racism
Please remember that help and contact details listed on the site are for the UK only. Help in Australia can be found via this link.

A parent’s pledge to raise a responsible digital citizen

Annie Fox, an American educator who empowers young people through increased self-awareness, emotional intelligence skills and stress-reduction strategies, has published a manifesto for today’s parents.

Some of the pledges include:

  • Social media is part of my child’s world. As a Safety Conscious Digital Parent, I pledge to do my best to raise my child to be a responsible digital citizen.
  • I pledge to support my child’s use of age-appropriate social networking sites and to teach my child how to play safe and stay safe online so (s)he can grow in positive ways from online activities.

Read the whole pledge here. A great follow on from last week’s pieces from danah boyd.

Parental stalking online ‘unwise’

Last week, The Age spoke with visiting social media researcher danah boyd about parents monitoring their children’s online activities.

PARENTS should not stalk their children online, warns Dr Danah Boyd, a leading US cyber safety expert visiting Australia to lecture on teens’ online privacy.

But Dr Boyd warns that constant parental online surveillance not only abuses teens’ privacy but also obliges them to forge coded forms of communication online, using in-jokes, shared references and even song lyrics to evade parental scrutiny.

Read the entire article here.

How do you keep your kids safe online?

An article in the Sunday Age discusses the responsibilities of parents in regards to their children’s cybersafety. Author Adam Turner explains how parents can help:

A common cybersafety rule is that the computer stays in the living area, positioned in such a way that anyone who walks into the room can see what’s on the screen. If notebooks are permitted in the bedrooms for studying, perhaps it’s on the condition that they recharge on the kitchen bench at night. The same rule can apply for mobile phones, which can also help combat cyberbullying.

Read the whole article here.

Keep current. Keep communicating. Keep checking™.

The  iKeepSafe website has three easy steps for parents to help keep their children safe online:

  • KEEP CURRENT with the technology your child uses. You don’t have to be an expert, but a little understanding goes a long way towards keeping your child safe online.
  • KEEP COMMUNICATING with your child about everything they experience on the Internet.  Know their lingo, and ask when you don’t understand something.  Work to keep the lines of communication open.
  • KEEP CHECKING your child’s Internet activity.  Know where they go online. Let them know that you’ll keep checking because you want them to understand that the Internet is a public forum and never truly private. Everything they do online contributes to their digital reputation. Help them develop an online reputation that is an asset rather than a liability.

Great advice from the US non-profit alliance organisation.

10 things you don’t know about teens and social networking

Cast members of the play Facebook Me recently sat down with Sarah Weir and discussed their thoughts on social networking.

“There’s more ‘life’ happening online than offline.  If you are not online, you are completely out of the loop–you don’t have a life, you don’t really exist.”

–Hannah, 13 years old

“I’m online even during class.  I’m supposed to be taking notes but instead I’m commenting on stuff and uploading pictures.”

–Emma, 14 years old


“I feel safer online than I do offline.  So I do things online that I wouldn’t do in real life.”

–Sadie, 14 years old

“I’ve become very good at taking pictures of myself.  I know what angle is best, I know how to part my lips…you know.  It’s like the number one thing on my mind is ‘I need to get home right now and take a new profile picture.’  All because I want someone to comment on how I look.”

–Katie, 15 years old

“Social networking affects all the things you do in real life now.  Like, if you go to a party, one of the most important aspects of going to the party is to document yourself for online posts.  You have to prove you were looking good, you were having fun, and that you were actually there!  It’s not about the party anymore but about the pictures of the party.”

–Caroline, 14 years old

“I feel sad, depressed, jealous, or whatever when I don’t get a lot of “Likes” on my photo or when someone else gets way more Likes than me. Honestly, I’m not sure that parents realize how drastically it affects our self-image and confidence. If I see a picture of a really pretty girl, it’s like ‘Goodbye self-esteem.’  It forces me to compete and do stuff that I don’t want to do, so my confidence will get a boost.”

–Samantha, 14 years old

“Sometimes I feel like I’m losing control. I want my parents to tell me to get off the computer. Actually, they would need to literally take the computer away because I can’t stop myself.”

–Nina, 15 years old

“My friendships are really affected by social networking. You have to constantly validate your friends online. And everyone’s like ‘Where were you?’ ‘What have you been doing?’  ‘Why haven’t you commented on my picture yet?’ So you have to be online all the time, just to keep track, so you don’t upset anyone.”

–Jasmine, 13 years old

“There is so much pressure to look happy all the time—you can never just be yourself– because everybody is always taking pictures and posting them.”

–Nikki, 13 years old

“I really want my mom to be proud of me.  Obviously, I want her to think I’m writing my essay or doing things I should be doing instead of being on Facebook.  But I also want to be online. So I lie or accuse her of not trusting me.  It’s awful, but I’ve become really comfortable with lying.”

–Maya, 14 years old

Professor Larry D. Rosen offers this advice:

  • Start young.
  • Listen.
  • Institute family meals with tech breaks.
  • Don’t use your ignorance about technology as an excuse.
  • Don’t rely on secretly monitoring online activities.
  • Look for warning signs.

To read the entire piece, click here.

Digizen

Digizen is a website run by the UK Childnet International charity.

digizen

[it] provides information for educators, parents, carers, and young people. It is used to strengthen their awareness and understanding of what digital citizenship is and encourages users of technology to be and become responsible DIGItal citiZENS. It shares specific advice and resources on issues such as social networking and cyberbullying and how these relate to and affect their own and other people’s online experiences and behaviours.

Specific sections cater for teachers, parents and students and interactive websites and games introduce topics (for parents) include:

  • what you need to know
  • social networking explained
  • evaluating social networks

and more. Well worth a look.